The problem with feeling like a failure is that it slows you down to a point where you literally feel like can’t do nothing.

Even if you wanna make progress on something, you can’t do it.

Because you really don’t believe in yourself enough to take any kind of real action.

But if you anything like me, at some point you might start to wonder, why do I even feel this way?

I been in your shoes before, and I think it comes down to 3 main things.

The first reason you feel like a failure is…

1. You compare yourself to other people.

You think you need to be doing what somebody else is doing.

The way they doing it.

In the same amount of time they doing it in.

You letting other people set the bar for you.

Instead of setting your own bar.

So then when you don’t meet the standards you think you need to be meeting, your logical conclusion is that you failed.

But that’s foolish, because you don’t know where that person started at or how long they been doing it.

They could have had so many advantages you don’t know about.

And even if they didn’t, that’s not worth your time to worry about.

Especially when you got other problems.

Like this second thing that makes you feel like a failure…

2. You know you ain’t going hard enough.

If you was really going as hard as you can, you’d know it.

But it works the same way the other way around.

When you slacking, you know you slacking.

And you KNOW you been slacking.

And that little voice in your head won’t let you stop hearing about it.

• Failure
• Failure
• Failure

That same bell keeps ringing over and over.

Everytime you procrastinate on something you know you should have did, you remind yourself of how much of a failure you are.

But let me ask you this…

Do you have any good days?

Like… dead serious.

Cause if you do, then you can’t really call yourself a failure.

Because at least you doing something.

Now, do that mean you can’t step it up a notch?

Absolutely not.

We can always get better.

But being a failure and being imperfect is 2 different things.

But there is 1 more thing that can make you THINK you are a failure…

3. Other people’s expectations.

It can be anybody.

• Yo mama
• Yo daddy
• Yo granny
• Yo grandaddy
• ”Experts” on social media

Anybody who’s opinion you take seriously enough to actually try to live by it.

Adding it all up...

All that stuff adds up to you thinking you have valid reasons to feel like a failure.

But at the end of the day, all that is is a mindset.

You feel like a failure cause you THINK like a failure.

So if you wanna stop feeling like a failure, you gotta change your mindset.

But that’s easier said than done.

The best way to make it easy is to follow a journal routine where you challenge your negative thoughts every single day, and literally practice thinking positive thoughts.

After you do that enough times, you’ll get to a point where the positive thoughts will become your natural way of thinking, and you won’t feel like a failure no more.

​If you want a pre-made journaling template to make that process easy for you, you can try this one I created.​

It's good. Really good.

-Real Talk