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5 Ways to Be a Better Provider For Your Family
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One of the most important things most men never understand about being a provider is that you ain’t gotta be the richest man in the world to provide for a family. If I’m being 100% honest with you, if you just do these 5 things consistently, you’ll be a better provider than 99% of men in the world. 1. Make smart financial decisions.When it comes to making smart financial decisions, a little bit of discipline goes a very long way. The next time you and your girl talk about what yall wanna eat, cook at home instead of buying fast food. The benefit of doing that is that now that you saved that lil bit of bread, you can spend it on something that will add long term value to yall lives (like stocks or ETFs for example; I recommended investing a little bit every paycheck). Making smart financial decisions is one of the easiest ways to make sure you can always provide for your family. If you can get a car paid off, do that. Don’t talk yourself into buying a new one just because it looks better and has new features. Not having a car note makes a big difference. If you think it won’t, try it and see. 2. Give them your undivided attention.Most men never understand that providing fora family ain’t just about spending money and taking care of their physical needs. Your family needs to be seen. Truth be told, emotional connection is just as important as food. Maybe even more important. A family that’s starved emotionally will never thrive. They’ll be alive, but they won’t be living. When it’s time for family time, give them your full, undivided attention. Put your cell phone down. Turn the music off and take your headphones out.
Put your own needs to the side sometimes. Let them come first. They’ll thank you for it. 3. Build your skillset.Let’s be real. Skills pay the bills. The more skills you have, the more in demand you’ll be. When you are a man that knows how to do stuff, you can always find a way to make money. Even if it’s just $100 here and $50 there. That’ll keep the lights on, and keep yall stomachs fed.
But don’t get it twisted. Softs skills are important too.
Those are the things that will make your family love having you around. And those are the skills that will help them thrive in their own lives too. 4. Regulate your emotions.Real talk bruh. You emotions set the tone for your whole family. If you can’t handle your own emotions, how can you handle your woman’s emotions or your kid’s emotions? Your kids will learn how to regulate their emotions from the way you regulate yours AND the way you regulate theirs. They can’t learn emotional regulation if they never see it. And you can’t count on the media, or schools, or other kids to teach that to your kids for you. So you gotta make emotional regulation a priority. Don’t just shove all your emotions down like a nasty ass plate of food you got at somebody’s house and you don’t want them to know you don’t like it so you turn it upside down and stuff it way down to the bottom of the trash can. You gotta be able to feel your pain bruh. Cause when you can feel your pain, you can feel their pain. And that’s how you provide a solid emotional foundation for your family. Not just physical. 5. Have a long term vision.If you really wanna be a great provider for your family, you can’t always be thinking short term. What’s your plan for 10, 15, 20 years from now? What are you passing down to your kids Knowledge and wisdom? Or unresolved trauma? What’s gone happen when you die? Are you setting up investment accounts and insurance policies to make sure they straight? Can you keep your expenses in check right now so yall have more money to enjoy later? Make sure you get clear on your vision so you can move with a purpose. You ain’t gotta be perfect to be a provider. You just gotta be focused, diligent, and consistent. And the more you focus on following these 5 tips I just gave you, the better you’ll be able to provide. And I promise you, your family will notice the difference. Real talk. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV |
Marrio Roberts Jr.
My passion is bringing the best out of people. I'm here to help you reach your full potential through motivational content and lessons on self improvement, personal development, personal branding, and the Bible. Sign up for my email list if that sounds like something you would benefit from. If you sign up, you'll receive the next edition of Da Real Talk Newsletter.
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